Then in a blink of an eye you are in your late 20s and your friends are doing the whole marriage and baby thing. And then you start to wonder,"Eh? Why am I still not even there yet?"
It eventually hits home when your grandparents start dropping like flies around you and when your parents actually suggest that you date your other half for one year and consider getting engaged.
That's when you start to think how much you have accomplished in your life thus far.
"Am I there yet?"
Honest to goodness,most of us aren't usually where we wanna be when we hit the magic age. But we strive to make it there at least so that should serve as some form of consolation.
Career,friends,family...we try to be the best we can in these fields and try to be there whenever we can for these people who have loved us from young and loved us for the people that we are for so long.
But MARRIAGE is one funny thingamajig that doesn't quite make itself very clear to me. When I was a little girl of perhaps 10, the 'M' word seemed easy enough. Find a nice boy, date for a couple of years, settle down and have some kiddies of our own. There was even time enough for me to think of how fairytale like my wedding would be with magical unicorns and fairies scattering soft rose petals at my every step.
But then again, I was only 10.
As I grew older, and more tainted by society(yea blame everything on society as usual), I began to realize that the 'M' word was such a tough game to play. What comes before the letter 'M' in our current generation? The 'C' and then the 'L' word.
'C' can stand for Chemistry, Communication, etc... 'L' is Love. Well of course 'L' can also mean Length but that's a story for another post.
And these 2 small letters make all the difference. You see, when there isn't Chemistry, there'll never be Love. And when there's no Love, there's no way in hell a Marriage is going to take place.
Unless the couple lives by the old adage of "Marrying the one you love or loving the one you married".
That saying is shit la to me. I personally believe in marrying the one I love. I'm not into having sex with some stranger I got bethrothed to and then having to put so much energy into concentrating on trying to love the fella. I wonder how they did in the past. Seriously.
But back to my topic, it has become such a bane to receive red cards from friends nowadays. No red eggs yet(Thank God!), but being quite the thinker, it makes me...well,think. I love weddings. Trust me,I do. They are always such beautiful occasions filled with love and everyone is just so happy. The bride and groom look alittle hassled but happy and blissful usually and all has well wishes at every corner.
I do want to get married someday too to the man I love,definitely. It's nice to hear friends telling you the date of their wedding and seeing their happy smiles. And then you get to wondering,"When is it going to be my turn to be so happy?" It may be a subconscious thought but it is a legitimate thought. Both the bride and groom are looking forward eagerly to spend the rest of their lives together in matrimonial bliss. Isn't that nice? It is!
But I'm not rushing. Nosirree! For now it's a nice thought and probably something to look forward to in a few more years.
The reason for this post is not coz I have nothing better to do. It's only coz I've been receiving so many 'red bombs' it's scary!
Cheers!
Tolora
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