Have You Ever...

Have you ever wondered why there are some people whom we are willing to do anything for and why there are others who just seem undeserving of our time and affections?

I have been feeling sentimental recently and got down to doing a mind list of people in my life whom I would die for and people whom I would drop with a snap should there be any form of impending danger imminent. It's crazy how those whom you thought you would end up best friends with become distant over night. And so I came to my own conclusion on this matter.

Those people whom you do not want to do things for are simply those who do not fit into your life / lifestyle any longer. It's like a trend. Once the season is over, nothing means anything anymore. Sad but true. Personally I am always willing to keep friends for as long as I possibly can but there are times when I know I just have to let go and I do. But don't get me wrong. I won't drop friends just because I feel like it or because they have moved to another country. There are some reasons why I would choose to let a friend go.

1) There is no longer fun and proper communication between us.

I don't mean to say that it has to be fun, joy and laughter all the time but I believe, like in a love relationship, communication is vital and without it, whatever personal alliances you make means nadah. There has to be a constant flow of communication and an almost never-ending need to contact each other even if it's just to ask a simple how are you.

2) There is noticeable distance between us.

You know how it's like when you are in a 'complicated' relationship? You guys are more than friends but less than a couple. It's the same in such friendships. You guys become more than strangers but less than friends. It's a confusing thing but I'm sure most of you will know what I mean. A classic scenario will be, you arrange to meet up, you guys go to a restaurant for dinner. You sit down, look at each other, trying to have a proper friend-like conversation. For some reason, you feel like the more you two converse, the further the distance between the two of you. You get sick of the monotony and deep down hope that this dinner would end asap.

3) Plain meeting up feels like pure agony.

All of us will know this. When you arrange to meet up with close friends, you get excited and hope to meet them as soon as you can. But when this anticipation turns into a "Do I really have to meet him/her tonight? But I'm soooo tired!", you know this friendship probably wouldn't stand the test of time. However, it's not just about you having these sort of feelings. Sensing these kind of drudge from the other party can kill off any nuance of friendship that is left at all. The constant effort of one party to contact the other and receiving short curt replies that do not in the least bit reek of any form of anticipation makes the contacting party feel taken for granted.

There's probably a whole list more of other reasons you may have to ditch a friend once and for all. It's a sad thing but someone has got to be the devil and put a stop to the hurt immediately.

On a lighter note, it's been a smooth sailing week so far. Had a crazy time with Yip, Seng and the fiancé at Seng's place last night over a game of Raving Rabbids, Wii Sports, some Samba game and this answer and question game which left us all in stitches. Seng's mum even made beehoon and curry chicken for us! Sweet!

Tyson has been a good boy lately too. Look at this face. How can any mother not love this face?

I'm enjoying some me time today while the fiancé goes off to teach. Gonna have to pick the family up from Changi Airport tonight and probably grab some long awaited Popeyes!

And for my impending trip to Tokyo (I'm sooooooo excited about it!), in January 2013, a Cool Japan insert came today with The Sunday Times and it is packed with some of the coolest places me and the fiancé can check out when we are finally there.

And there are some new and cool spots to check out in Tokyo and Yokohama as stated inside the insert! I will be nice and put some of the information here so you can visit these places should you go to Japan in the near future. (Say thank you!)

1.) TOKYO SKYTREE

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2.) KIDDY LAND in Harajuku

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3.) Shibuya HIKARIE

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YOKOHAMA

1.) Shin-Yokohama Raumen Museum

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2.) CUPNOODLES MUSEUM

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* All information and content on Tokyo and Yokohama in this post is taken from MY JAPAN HOLIDAY insertion found in The Sunday Times (Singapore) on 19th August 2013.*

Hopefully all these information will be somewhat useful to those traveling to Japan in the near future! I know it's only cut and paste but the information is still good! :p

Tomorrow's a Public Holiday so have fun and Selamat Hari Raya to all my Muslim friends out there! :D

Tolora